This year I had the honor of speaking at a Men’s Conference at my home church. The 2013 Why Me? Men’s Conference; was August 9th & 10th and I was speaking on something near and dear to my heart, being a dad. The title of my talk those two days was “I Am Not Ashamed to be a Dad!” There are many things that I am to a lot of people. However I place the title of “Dad” above all but “Husband” and “Child of God”. I was posting the points that I was covering in the class and as the class passed I never finished the points here. So here is the final points to why “I Am Not Ashamed to be a Dad!”
Mathew 6:24 ~ No one can be a slave of two masters, since either he will hate one and love the other, or be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot be slaves of God and of money.
Your children will know what is valuable to you as they spend time with you. If driving a nice car is something that makes your heart race, then they will grow up believing that they should seek out a nice car. If climbing the corporate ladder is the thing that gets you out of bed in the morning, then your children will value that same type of success. God has wired kids in such a way that they want to please their parents. They want their parents to say, “Wow, we are so proud of you.” And they will do whatever it takes to make you proud.
God turns a kid’s heart toward his parents and deep inside, a child wants to please mom and dad. So what does this mean? This means that whatever is important to you, whatever you consider worthy of your pursuit, those things will also be of great value to your children. And this is what I see in some men:
- Hunting is more important than date night.
- Golfing is more important than church.
- Money is more important than ministry.
- Television is more valuable than Bible Study.
- Time with the friends is more important than time with their wives.
All these scenarios are ungodly and improper. Dads, we have to be aware that our values are constantly being observed by our children. And they will grow up wanting to please us, by modeling those same values. We have to help our children see what’s most important.
I hope that you have gained some good points from reading through these post. It is a hard thing to be a dad. It is a job that never ends but the rewards are great if you take the time to do it right.
Till Next time,